If you are going through a deserted sexual period, there are certain things you should know about your body's adjustment to it. However, there is nothing to worry about, provided you do not abstain for too long.

      Deprivation of sex depends on two things: either you or others... More precisely, it could happen to you, all of a sudden, to want to abstain to find a certain spiritual aspiration. A bad experience, whatever it is, would have pushed you to abandon any sexual practice, convinced that happiness is elsewhere.

    Another case in point, you are not really attractive and you have the worst difficulties to seduce and convince someone to copulate with you.

    However, abstinence affects your body internally, both physically and psychologically.

Here are the 10 things that can happen if you don't have sex for too long:

1 - Your immune system is more vulnerable

Sexual activity strengthens your immune system. So logically, the opposite seems inevitable if you are deprived of sex. Researchers at Wilkes-Barre University in Pennsylvania (USA) found that people making love once or twice a week saw its production of immunoglobulin A rise by 30%. The latter represents the first line of physical defence against viruses and bacteria.

2 - Your libido may decline

This is not entirely true. Some experts have defined regular sexual activity as a way to "set fire" to your libido and that, on the contrary, a period of abstinence would decrease sexual desire. However, other researchers believe that your libido level simply depends on your own sexual experiences.

Addiction to social networks, a new public health scourge

More and more researchers are warning about the worrying effects of social networks on the brain, and about their dangers for adolescents. Facebook recognized last week that content consumption, when passive, can have a negative impact on well-being.
Jean Twenge, professor of psychology at the University of San Diego, has been studying intergenerational differences in mental health for 25 years. Two years ago, she noticed that the curves of several parameters she regularly monitors had collapsed since 2012: the frequency of meetings between young people, the proportion of high school students with a driving licence, having already had sex or a simple appointment. At the same time, the percentage of depressed teenagers reporting loneliness and suicide attempts has peaked, she explains in her book "iGen", the nickname she gives to the generation born between 1995 and 2012.
She is suffering from "the worst mental health crisis in decades," Twenge says. And the culprit would be the smartphone. Teenagers would "scroll" infinitely on social networks, withdrawing into themselves and suffering from the comparison with their peers who stage their daily lives on Facebook or Instagram. They wouldn't even be able to get rid of their cell phones at night, some researchers call them "nomophobia" - for "no mobile phobia". A problem which does not spare adults, but which affects even more young people who have grown up with a telephone in their hands.
Similar fears about the effect of televisions, computers and video game consoles were expressed when they arrived in the homes. And if the correlation between his smartphone and depression in the meantime exists, causality remains difficult to prove: is it his consultation that affects mental health, or the already fragile people who spend more time online?
Reward Circuit
What researchers are beginning to be able to say is that social networks have an effect on the brain close to some addictive substances, such as smoking. Ofir Turel, professor of information systems at the University of California, has proven that "excessive Facebook use is associated with changes in the reward circuit. Because, unlike television, social networks offer "variable rewards": the user never knows how many likes he will collect or on which videos he will fall. It's like putting different treats in your fridge every day - you'd have a hard time resisting the urge to open it," he says.

The National Institute on Drug Abuse, an American public research institute, even questions whether the decline in alcohol and hard drug use among teenagers is linked to smartphone use - one addiction replacing another. Other researchers point to the negative influence of smartphones on cognitive abilities: a recent study by the University of Chicago shows that their mere presence reduces the ability to memorize, reason and solve new problems.

Facebook's reaction

Facebook has long been silent on this subject. It's hard for him to admit the dangers of these addictive features, because they are at the heart of his business model: making users spend as much time on his platform as possible to sell as much advertising space as possible.

But the social network had to face a growing load of former leaders warning against the "monster" Facebook had created. The strongest criticism came in mid-November from Chamath Palihapitiya, former vice-president of the company, during a speech to students at Stanford. We have created loops triggering short-term reactions to dopamine (a powerful neurotransmitter, NDLR) that are destroying the functioning of society," he said, referring to his "immense sense of guilt" and explaining not wanting to "put this shit" in the hands of his children.

For Facebook, the tool is "neutral

On Friday, Facebook finally decided to react, lifting the veil on the work of a research team dedicated to answering a question: "Is spending time on social networks bad for us? This question is "crucial for Silicon Valley," say David Ginsberg, Facebook's research director, and Moira Burke, Carnegie Mellon's researcher, debauched by the group in 2012 to work on this theme.

Their conclusion? The tool is neutral - it all depends on how it is used. Of course, they admit the negative effects of passive content consumption - scrolling on the news feed, clicking on links. But interacting with loved ones through comments and messages, and using the social network to recall memories "improves well-being," they say.

Facebook says it is ready to evolve the social network based on these results, even if it means "reducing indicators of user participation in the short term," an approach that echoes Mark Zuckerberg's recent statement that "protecting our community is more important than maximizing our profits. The company will also donate $1 million to fund research to better understand the impact of technologies on children.

If Facebook is not yet pronouncing itself on this subject, the choice that the "techies" make for the education of their own offspring is interesting. Steiner Waldorf schools, which have banned screens in favour of books, pencils and sewing needles, have been very successful in the Valley. 75% of the children who are enrolled have parents working in technology," says Adam Alter, professor of psychology at New York University.
10 signs that you are addicted to Facebook
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Facebook, since its launch in 2004, has gradually taken a central place in our lives, gradually redefining the relationship with others and ourselves, transforming our daily lives, a continuum punctuated or carried away by the resonance of the news flow of the social network. Friendly or professional contacts, agendas, information, entertainment, artistic demonstrations or political militancy, its applications are numerous and constantly evolving. But, as a clinical psychologist, I notice today in consultation, the appearance of psychological disorders directly related to the intensive use of this medium such as anxiety, depression, insomnia or the reduction of cognitive faculties. It is necessary to know these new forms of addiction and their consequences. I propose 10 signs, 10 clues of a potentially altered relationship to Facebook.

1 Connecting is the first thing you do in the morning.

 The first morning reflex, even carried out in the greatest indifference, alerts in many addictions to the transition between a psychic economy based on pleasure, to the dynamics of need, proper to dependence. In this mode, addictive driving quickly precedes all the others: first action before and after eating, first when you turn on your mobile phone, first when you leave sports or the cinema...

2... And the last one at night!

 You connect one last time before turning off your computer, before leaving work, before going to eat, before going to sleep... Thus, time elapses in an enclave whose Facebook sets the limits. This temporality, determined by the social network, betrays the underlying anguish that forces its use: "The individualisation of pathways, the approach of so-called connexionist temporalities, where the short term dominates, leads to a feeling of uncertainty and insecurity towards the future and increasingly obscures the present". (Le Garrec), Facebook intervenes as a miraculous, contraphobic remedy, a fetish that contains and controls time. Don't you always want to push him away? Go a few more minutes, even if in the background there is nothing interesting to see, even if sleep begins to miss...
3 Wilfing.
This term refers to the wandering that is carried out on the web, from site to site, without a specific destination or objective. On Facebook, it becomes more precisely scrolling, which consists in scrolling indefinitely through the statutes and shared links (without ever opening them), we like at random, as in a strange trance, a cottony waltz where this time the notion of time is completely abolished. The time of anguish, which reminds us of our mortality, is thus dilapidated, suspended in this simulacrum of a feeling of eternity. Yet, when the person leaves the screen and realizes the lost moments and opportunities, the anguish, inexorably, catches up with them.

4 Managing your emotions becomes more difficult.

 A status or a comment that you don't like, a private message that offended you... and that's the impulsive outburst! This difficulty to secondarize your affects can mean a notable loss of distance with the media, its massive investment leads to engage narcissistically, to merge with it. The par-excitation, this symbolic membrane protecting the psyche from exogenous and endogenous excitations is weakened and the subject then suffers from a greater affective porosity, which in the "real life" would hardly touch him, the skin on the network.
5 The Facebook window is continuously opened in the background on your computer.
The omnipresence of the social network at every moment of your life also reveals the above-mentioned narcissistic commitment, its role as a "prosthesis of the Self" (Le Breton). At the slightest "beep" you do not hesitate to rush to your page to discover the origin of the notification. A deterioration of the quality of your work and the deadlines of execution, a weakening of your creativity, a feeling of incompetence which gains in importance are some of the consequences of this constant vigilance.

6 Without Facebook you get depressed.

 You avoid situations where you cannot connect but when this happens, you feel a form of temporary depression (feeling isolated or lonely, moody, psychomotor retardation...). The object of any addiction aimed at filling a gap (which it has itself created or which exists prior to the encounter with the object), its removal then gives a glimpse of the anguish of object loss which it was intended to camouflage. In the same way, Facebook has this analgesic, analgesic function, you forget your problems by looking through the blue window, you forget yourself, for a few moments, the world seems to hurt less. That's why you can't imagine your life without the network. Without him everything would be too boring, empty and dull, wouldn't it?

7 You spend less time with your loved ones. 

More and more people prefer to meet the Other on Facebook, chatting rather than going out "in person". This decrease in interpersonal relations may come as a surprise when it comes to a social network that sacralizes the bond and sharing with others, and yet, as I had the opportunity to write in "The New Shock of Generations": "the image has supplanted the social relationship as a duality because it is to it that the subject turns. That's who he's looking at. It is not the meeting of the other that seduces but to seize his represented, to observe fragments of his life, fragments of his being". If the alter-ego captures an important quantum of affect and takes precedence over the ego, the same goes for others, more invested in their virtuality than in the sphere of reality. Sometimes a dependent person thus prefers the safe intimacy of the social network to that woven with his or her spouse.

8 Reading costs you more effort.

 Recent studies by cognitive neuroscientists have shown that overflight reading (which eventually forces Facebook to read) deteriorates and the reading habits and mental resources that guarantee its ability (see Maryanne Wolf's study). On a clinical level, under the primacy of the image, there is a weakening of the ability to dream and a weakening of thought. (Castarède).

9 Your life is built around Facebook (not the other way around). 

And you're struggling to turn things around because your attempts to diminish or stop your connections have failed. If you find that you spend more time online than you plan to, if you neglect other areas of your life (employment, housework, children's education...), if you prefer to check your notifications rather than perform other pressing tasks, if when you are not online you think about it and would like to connect, it may be that in addition to the time allocated to the network, it is the very nature of your investment, the quality of the quantum of affect that has changed.

10 Your family complains about your Facebook practice.

 It is of course an index neglected by the dependent person who maintains his consumption with the help of the denial of the amplitude of his consumption. An outside witness, not stuck in a similar addiction, can often attest to an excess to which the addict does not have intellectual access. If you feel annoyed, if you live as a reproach the observations of those around you about your practice, or if you even get angry when you are interrupted, perhaps this is a sign of your over-inclusion in the social network. The same applies to any concealment.

I focused my analysis on Facebook but it would of course be possible to adapt it to other social networks. These few clues are far from exhaustive but should allow you to engage in a personal reflection on your relationship to this social network whose excessive use can lead to a real deterioration in the quality of life. If you recognize yourself in these items, if psychological suffering has taken precedence over pleasure, if the reflex dominates the reasoned approach, if you no longer recognize yourself completely, perhaps it is time to take a break! And to talk about it.

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But during his interrogation....

 He tells a completely different story, explaining that he is the husband's lover and that his wife's arrival interrupted their frolic. As he fled, he tried to silence the barking dog and put him back in the house. The husband initially denied the facts, but the investigation of the telephone records would have shown exchanges between the two men.

The lover was released from police custody.
Breastfeeding: a new benefit for mothers confirmed, but a rate still too low

Breastfeeding is the ideal way to provide infants with all the nutrients they need to grow and develop healthy. The latter also has advantages for the mother, since according to a recent report by the American Institute for Cancer Research (AICR), it reduces the risk of breast cancer at an older age. The authors state that this effect is weak, but that it is an additional reason for breastfeeding for mothers who are able to do so. Specifically, they estimate that the risk is reduced by 2% per 5-month period of breastfeeding.

To maximize this benefit, the report recommends breastfeeding exclusively for up to 6 months, following the example of the World Health Organization (WHO). Among the reasons given, the fact that breastfeeding can delay menstrual periods, which reduces exposure to a hormone, estrogen, associated with breast cancer risk. The loss of breast tissue after lactation can also help to "get rid" of cells that show DNA damage. With the many benefits of breastfeeding, it is important that new mothers receive support to breastfeed successfully for more than a few days or weeks," says Alice Bender, one of the report's authors.

A global rate of 50% in 2025
This report comes at the same time as a WHO study, explaining that no country in the world fully complies with breastfeeding recommendations. A review of breastfeeding practices in 194 countries shows that only 40 per cent of children under six months of age are exclusively breastfed and only 23 countries have exclusive breastfeeding rates above 60 per cent.

The latter also confirms that "breastfeeding mothers have a reduced risk of ovarian and breast cancer, two major causes of mortality in women. This conclusion is accompanied by an analysis that shows that only $4.70 per newborn per year is needed to increase the global exclusive breastfeeding rate for children under 6 months to 50 per cent by 2025. Achieving this goal would save the lives of 520,000 children under five, and could generate $300 billion in economic gains over 10 years. This is due to the reduction in illness and health costs, and the resulting increase in productivity.
How to give energy back to a lazy dog?
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Some dogs give the impression of being lazy: they sleep all day, they play and interact little with their owners, etc... If your dog seems lazy to you, here are several solutions to try to give him back his energy!

Your dog sleeps all day and you would like him to be a little more active? For this, it is necessary to offer him activities that are stimulating for him!
First of all, most dogs enjoy walks where they can spend time, sometimes swim, interact with other dogs, play with you, etc... Feel free to vary the outing places and watch the ones your dog enjoys the most. Vary the games during the outings and likewise, watch the ones your dog likes the most. Feel free to surround yourself with other dog owners during outings. Dogs need interactions with their congeners and other humans, which can be all the more stimulating for them!

Good to know: it is important to take your dog out even if you have a garden: going out in the garden is much less stimulating for them than going outdoors!
It is possible to practice a sport with your dog and share pleasant moments with him. Why not try agility, canicross, etc...

At home, you can enrich your dog's environment with different toys. There are toys in which it is possible to hide food, this can increase your dog's interest in his toys. There are also interactive toys that are very beneficial for dogs, they allow them to stimulate their intellectual abilities while having fun. Feel free to read our What toy for my dog? to learn more about the toys available for dogs.
It can also be useful to give your dog a food supplement to stimulate his metabolism and give him back all his energy! For example, there is the Tonivit TVM food supplement for dogs, which is a source of vitamins, trace elements and essential amino acids. In older dogs, a Sitalan TVM supplement cure can be performed.

If your dog does not seem fit, it is advisable to consult a veterinarian for a check-up. Indeed, just like us, dogs can refuse to move when they do not feel well, if they have pain somewhere, etc... The implementation of an adapted treatment can considerably improve the comfort of the dog and its activity! 

Similarly, if your dog was active and suddenly changes behaviour and refuses to move, play, etc... or if you observe any abnormality (lameness, loss of appetite, etc...), then a consultation with a veterinarian is strongly advised.